Kissing, a delicate art
Submitted by AlicinhaIt can be tagged as a wonderful prelude to more intimate pleasures. A kiss is one of the most intimate and sensuous things you can experience with another person. Fortunately, while there’s no “right” way to kiss, many people experience anxiety about kissing or don’t know how to ask for a kiss.
The best lovers of the world are the masters of timing. They know how to milk the yearning by barely brushing their lips against yours, and they know precisely when to go in, full-throttled, for the kill. While sense of timing may be a genetically inherited trait shared among musicians, comedians and successful stockbrokers, one can learn the basics by paying close attention your partner’s breathing.
Steps
- Be kissable. Use lip balm, especially if your lips tend to get dry and chapped. soft lips are simply more inviting. Most importantly, nobody wants to kiss someone with a stinky mouth, so carry some breath mints or gum with you, especially if you’re going out on a date. Breath mints are preferable, because you can use them in a pinch and not have to worry about getting rid of them.
- Also be sure to stay well hydrated; a dry mouth usually will smell worse. Of course, make sure you don’t have anything stuck in your teeth, either.
- Test the waters. Pay attention to signals that the other person is into you and is ready for a kiss. Does he or she seem comfortable touching you? Do they brush up against you or frequently enter your personal space with playful, innocent touches? Has the subject of kissing come up in conversation? If you haven’t noticed any of these signals, but the person does seem “into you,” try discreetly and innocently breaking the touch barrier (guys will generally be very receptive to this, many girls will not) or bringing up kissing when you’re talking. The key is to be subtle and to watch the other person’s reaction.
- Wait for the right moment. There’s usually no hurry for a kiss, especially a first kiss with someone, so be patient and wait until the mood is right. Some good times are at a romantic movie after or during an on screen kiss, walking in the moonlight, or during a particularly intimate conversation. Wait until the two of you are alone so that the other person will feel more comfortable and so that nobody will see if your attempt to kiss is rejected.
- Get permission for the kiss. You usually don’t have to ask if you can kiss someone, but you do need to make sure your partner is willing to kiss you. The easiest way, of course, is to ask, but it just makes things awkward so don’t . Ask “May I kiss you?” or say “I’d like to kiss you,” and lean in right away. Many girls (and guys) don’t want to be asked: they prefer that you be confident enough to take a risk and just go for it. One way to do so is to stop whatever you’re doing and silently look into the person’s eyes for a moment or two. If your partner’s eyes drift down to your lips that’s a pretty good sign that he or she is ready for a kiss-chances are the reaction may be subtler, however. Another good way to get permission is to just lean in and try to kiss the person or gently pull him/her toward you for a kiss. If the person pulls away at any time, he or she is not ready for a kiss.
- Approach for the kiss. Approach slowly and smoothly. Depending on your starting position you may need only to turn your head, or you may need to lean in a bit. You may want to use your hands to gently urge your partner’s body or head into position-you just want to guide his or her movement a little, you don’t want to forcibly move any part of his or her body or hold your partner in an uncomfortable position-but in general you just want to position yourself correctly and let your partner meet you. As you near your partner’s lips, maintain eye contact. You may want to close your eyes after your lips meet to heighten the sensuality of the kiss (and to avoid staring at the pores on his or her face).
- Kiss gently. There are many kinds of kisses, from quick pecks to sweet, passionate kisses. There’s a time and place for all of these, but your first kiss with someone should be gentle and romantic. Don’t press your mouth onto your partner’s–just let your lips meet–and don’t try to push your tongue into his or her mouth. A soft, closed-mouth-to-closed-mouth kiss is perfect. Break the kiss for a moment, keeping your head close to your partner’s, and if your partner moves to kiss you back or seems to like it and doesn’t pull away, go in for another, longer, but still gentle, kiss.
- Make the kiss the reason for the kiss. A lot of people (mostly men) seem to treat kisses as nothing more than a prelude to something else, and will try to quickly move into French kissing or start putting their hands in inappropriate places. Good kissers concentrate on the kiss, and they kiss, at least seemingly, expecting nothing more. Enjoy the experience, and don’t move too fast.
- Let your partner participate in the kiss. Good kissing requires give-and-take, so read your partner’s body language and pay attention to clues (sighs or moans) that tell you you’re doing something he or she likes. Let your partner kiss you back, and move with him or her as long as you’re comfortable with what he or she is doing.
- Breathe. If you’re kissing for an extended period, it’s easy to forget to breathe. Gasping, however, or turning blue is not romantic. Take small breaths through your nose as you kiss. You do not forget how to breathe!
- Use your hands. While you should keep your hands polite, especially on a first kiss, you don’t necessarily want them just dangling at your sides. Embrace your partner, cup his or her face very gently in your hands, or run your hands through his or her hair. Another turn on for the first kiss is to gently caress their shoulder while you kiss. It shows you are comfortable with him/her. Don’t forget your manners!
First Kiss
Consider these important kissing tips:
- Develop intimacy first before kissing.
- Heavy flirting before leaning toward the kiss can help put you both in the mood.
- Time and place are particularly critical for that first unforgettable kiss. Ideally, you want to be alone, in a romantic and memorable setting.
Here are some of the different types of kissing techniques. Caress your lips gently with these tips to spice up your lovemaking
Kissing Tips
Aggressive Kiss
While kissing your partner, gently bite down on the lower lip (women love it ) and then start sucking on the bottom lip to give them a great sensation.
Yummy
It may turn up too messy, but its worth the try. Take a bite of any chocolate that melts easily and French kiss as you would. It is extremely pleasurable. Say yummy the lips or the chocolate.
Lap Kiss
Ask your partner to lie with his/ her head on your lap, lean over and kiss them in rhythmic beats Your bottom lip will be on your partner’s top lip, and vise versa. You can even French kiss while in this position. It can act like a foreplay for the rest of the spice up session.
All over Kiss
It begins with a gentle kiss on your partner’s forehead. Move down slowly to the eyelids by gently forcing them to shut to dream an exotic experience. Feel the warmth of the breath and move down slowly to the nose. Give your best kiss right on to the lips exploring gently the treasures of the mouth. Make sure not to dig in hard. Make your partner anticipate for more.
Belly Button Kiss
Lightly kiss and blow on her belly button to give you partner the shiver of love.
French Kiss
The most loved and practiced kiss in the world is French kiss. Kiss gently with your eyes closed to set the mood. Before getting to the climax get comfortable with simple closed lips. Tentatively draw your tongue slowly across the other person’s lips. Explore the other person’s tongue in a light licking motion. The essence of French kissing builds up due to the sensitive surface of the tongue. Lightly lick other’s tongue and suck it gently in between to give your partner a thrill. Explore the other areas of the mouth like roof of the mouth. Lightly lick or tickle the area with your tongue.
Sensual Kiss
The most sensual kiss the shows warmth of love is butterfly kiss. With your faces less than a breath away, open and close your eyelids against your partner in such a way that the fluttering sensation should match your heartbeat.
Freeze
It’s an erotic and sensual French kiss with a twist of cold. Place a small piece of ice in your mouth, then open mouth and kiss your partner, passing him/her the ice with your tongue.
You can play a lot with ice, try this one. Place an ice cube in your partners belly button and announce a basic rule that if they move and it falls out, you will stop kissing them. When the ice cube melts, use the cold water all over the partners erogenous zones to make for an awesome sensation. Or just pass an ice cube back and forth in mouth while French kissing.
For more erotic feeling place a piece of ice on your tongue until it melts or just rub in ice on your tongue and lick their neck or earlobes or nipples. It just drive them straight on to your lips for more.
Kissing Tips
Even if you have years of great kissing under your dating belt, the following are definitely some good reminders.
- Taste and smell your lipstick, gloss and chapstick. Make sure they are pleasing.
- Use touch to enhance your kissing experience.
- Lick and press lips together slightly before kissing to soften, moisten and warm them.
- Most kissers close their eyes, so you should too - although, it can be nice to look at each other once in awhile.
- Kiss other parts of the body rather than just the lips.
- Kissing is an important part of a healthy relationship. Don’t let your pucker die away.
- Incorporate kissing into your day - pecks on the cheek in greeting, a smooch before leaving for work, a tender bedtime neck canoodle.
- Rub noses while kissing for childish fun.
- Take advantage of the sensual tongue, with all its touch and taste sensations.
- Giggle and laugh while kissing. Enjoy yourselves.
“Never underestimate the power of the perfect kiss. Get it right, and the rest will fall into place.”
Sources: Wikihow, Love to know
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